The show hasn’t even started yet and already I’m pissed off at Tila Tequila! Okay so I have to give her props for saying, hey I’m bisexual and I just want love too… except that no one had any knowledge of her being bi before this and it sounds more like the JC Chasez kinda bisexuality than anything else. I hate to say that though because that would just be delegitimizing her bisexuality because she’s making tons of money off of it. So instead I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and back up my team. However, that doesn’t mean I can’t be upset with her for how she’s presenting it! I have the feeling this publicity is going to just continue to spread negative stereotypes. Case and point… her press release:
“My show is about finding true love, because for me….having over 2 million friends is cool but sometimes it makes it hard for me to find someone real, and someone whom I can trust and love…..but there is a catch…..the show will be about me finding love as a BISEXUAL!!!!! THAT IS CRAZY RIGHT? … the only twist is that these guys and these girls have NO IDEA that I am bisexual and that they are competing against each others sexes!!! GUYS AGAINST GIRLS….WHO WILL I END UP HOOKING UP WITH????? WILL I BE STRAIGHT OR LESBIAN IN THE END?????”
… will she be straight or lesbian in the end? Well, I guess she’s not intending to stay bisexual long after such a big coming out. I’m expecting a lot of this kind of thing throughout the show and the media’s reporting of it *sigh* I hate this whole notion that once in a committed relationship you have to somehow lose a part of your sexual identity. Why can’t she still be bisexual after she’s chosen a ‘winner’ … I mean seriously, its not like these manufactured relationships last long. Then what? When she’s single again will she suddenly become bisexual again? As far as I’m concerned, one’s identity is a deep rooted part of one’s self that stays constant across situations. Otherwise its not an ‘identity’ …
Okay, so here’s the other thing. We know she’s going to end up with a woman. How do we know this? Because the majority of her fans are men… I would assume given her spreads in Playboy and Maxim. Accordingly, her entire ‘fame’ is dependent upon her sexualization and their approval. What does a red-blooded, testosterone-prone American man love more than two women getting it on?
Bisexuality has been appearing more and more in mainstream media lately. I should be glad about this; however, I’m not seeing it portrayed accurately. Rather, its bi-curiosity that the media has become fascinated with. Always the characters fall into the same trap… the show boosts ratings with a same-sex kiss and then the character either becomes gay, straight, unfaithful, and/or a slut. I’ll be the first to admit that there are certainly bisexuals out there who are just like that (my ex is all of that and a bag of chips), but thats largely due to the way we’ve been socialized! Its a negative cycle people. For every negative portrayal of a bisexual individual on TV we should also have a positive one… but I find myself lacking for any examples of positive bisexual role models. Perhaps thats why we bi’s like Angelina so much. She never felt the need to explain her sexual identity or conform to other’s expectations, she was just herself and didn’t apologize for it.
PS: Am I the only person who finds Tila Tequila wholly unattractive?
NO! I also find Tila Tequila unattractive. her body is great wonderful yea yea yea, but man that face…it only looks good at certain angles and at a certain light, but most of the time she looks like a weird old woman. I don’t know if its her lips or what, but if you squint your eyes her face looks like an old woman’s face. whatever, I’m babbling.
Anyways, that quote you gave from Tila stating will she be “lesbian or straight” at the end, it is frustrating…again, like being bisexual is a transitional phase and not as legitimate as being “gay” or “straight”. But you also have to put into consideration that Tila probably didn’t write that whole schpeel, I’m almost positive that STRAIGHT writers for the show wrote that and had no idea what they were talking about. Yet still, frustrating.